Crying is Natural and Healthy

We all have bouts of sadness, depression, and anxiety, when it piles up so high that we just release the energy by crying.  Crying is a natural process and can be cathartic.  Crying is our way of cleansing us of grief and sadness and other feelings of stress. But when you can’t stop crying, you need help.

Constant Crying is Not Healthy – Get Help

But when we can’t stop crying and it continues for hours, days, weeks, months, and years; then our emotions are not in balance.  Periods of grief are normal and eventually we return to our ‘normal state.’ But when the crying and the grief lingers thru weeks, months, and years, then we have a problem.  This problem of extended chronic grief can lead to adverse health conditions.

Ideally we want to return to a state of calmness and inner peace.  Inner peace allows us to be healthy and move forward with our goals.  Anxiety, grief, and sadness restrain us from achieving our goals in a healthy way.

Get Help When You Can’t Stop Crying

Asking for help is a sign that we recognize that we fell into a hole and we need a helping hand to pull us out of that hole.  Seeking help means that we want to move forward, but that somehow, we are stuck in a pattern that keeps us from moving forward.  Moving forward to experience the full realm of our destiny is what we are all about.  Sometimes we need a push from behind, or a gentle pull in the front to return us to the path we were meant to follow.

There are lots of forms of help. Some of it is ‘self’ help – where you get a manual or a guide and follow the guidelines.  Other forms of help are having a person guide you and give you feedback in your journey.  A healer is someone who commits to using their energy to help another person heal and return to a normal, healthy state.

Wanting to Change is Key

The most important step in beginning your journey towards help is to want to change.  Are you okay with staying in your grief and sadness? If yes, then that is where you will stay until you get tired of it.  Moving forward requires that you first want to change.  If you are willing to work towards change, then move forward by seeking out help.

You will not change your behavior unless you want to do so. If you do want to change your behavior, then you will change it. Commitment is the crucial first step – and that comes from your emotional and mental resolve to turn things around.  If you don’t want to stop crying, you will just keep looking around for the reasons of your grief and continue to justify your sadness that you have a ‘right’ to feel this way because this happened to you.  That is okay for the short term but it is not a long term strategy for maintaining your wellness.

Help Exists in Many Forms

Exploring the many offerings of healers is a way to start the process of change.  Try to find a person or method that resonates with you. There are many forms of resources.  You may find a video, or a pod-cast about your topic, or a web-site.  You may get a personal referral or find a licensed mental health care professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist.

Stay in the Present Moment

During my darkest days, I found it helpful to stay grounded in the present moment.  By that I mean that I paid full attention to what I was doing in the moment, whether I was eating, driving, walking, or working. I also began to focus my attention on my surroundings; such as the weather or  the physical environment.  And then I began to notice how I really felt as opposed to clinging to past feelings of grief and despair.  So, when I was preparing breakfast, I would focus on getting all the ingredients together and on cooking them, and on appreciating all the effort that went into bringing nourishing food into my life.  In other words I began to practice gratitude for having food and being able to cook it.

Gratitude Practice

A simple gratitude practice shifted my attention from thinking about all the bad things that happened in the past, or that could happen in the future, to being fully present with what was happening to me now.  Starting a gratitude practice is one way to start your own self-help journey.  Start by taking inventory of what you do have, right now.  Be grateful for what you do have and let that feeling move thru you.

Get Help to Stop Crying

Get the help you need. Research the resources that are online resources.  One organization that I recommend is the HeartMath institute.  They offer free resources that can help you start and stay on your journey to better health. Try is simple breath practice from HeartMath.